Procrastination puzzle: Goals/Systems?

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𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗿𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗽𝘂𝘇𝘇𝗹𝗲: Why clear goals can still leave you stuck?

Are you ready to delve into another new dimension on Procrastination and 

why Ram(name changed), a teenager couldn’t make progress when the goals were clear?

𝗪𝗵𝘆 𝗥𝗮𝗺 𝗱𝗶𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿?

“I’m super clear on my goals, no confusion. But I’m not making progress and kinda stuck” said Ram. We started exploring and it came out that he is super passionate and excited about achieving his goals. Parent added he is master of know-it-all surrounded by lotsa self-help books but he is stuck. Relatable in this information overload era, huh? 

As we explored further to work towards his goals, light bulb moment occurred to him that instead of focusing on the present task in hand, he was more focused on the competition and results. This new awareness helped him to move a bit further towards his goals. You think parents would not have advised him to focus in the present? Of course yes, only to hear the kid rebelling.

𝗔𝗻𝗮𝗹𝘆𝘀𝗶𝘀 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗹𝘆𝘀𝗶𝘀:

When kids are continuously drawn into these type of over analysing conversations with peers, even genuine advise and reminders from parents to focus on the present, doesn’t resonate with them. It becomes an endless loop holding them back from making progress. This whole thing reminded me of the term one of my professors introduced during the Analytics classes as ‘Analysis Paralysis’ where we end up over analysing and running into a rabbit hole. 

𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀: 

We co-created the plan for our sessions based on what Ram wanted to achieve in academic success and at the same time took a holistic approach to various other systems in play. As every session progressed, we explored more and as we explored more, more self-awareness came in and ‘The Magic happens’. 

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀:

I’m equally happy as Ram to see progress when he mentioned:

“I came in as disorganized with backlogs growing like anything and having a never ending to-do list.

Now, after a few sessions itself: I am having more structure to my life, I’m able to increase my focused study hours. I realized the importance of taking care of myself and how my emotions also play a role. Thanks a lot – I got whatever I need in just within 4 sessions.”

And parents were also super happy seeing their kid excelling academically and at the same time acting holistically. Every parent mentions : ‘We learnt something new about our kid and ourselves’. 

As the author of Atomic Habits, James Clear says, ‘You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.’

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